A New Club

Whether I like it or not, I am in a new club of women.  A group defined by loss, grief, strength, and hope. I didn't ask to join this group and all our stories and experiences are very different.  On social media this month I have seen many people, myself included, post or repost about October being Pregnancy and Infant Loss Awareness Month.  I shared a post on my social media that I am going to repost here. They aren't my words, but I share their sentiments.

"October is pregnancy/infant loss awareness month. 1 in 4 women will experience pregnancy loss. That’s too many. Too many women who have to suffer this heartache. You are seen. Your feelings are valid and how you cope is nobodies business. I’m not ashamed to say I am 1 in 4 anymore. Thankful for the support team I have around me and all the loving people I have had in my life throughout this healing process. It’s okay to be sad and to scream and yell, but it’s also okay to be happy and find joy in life after loss. Loss makes you love harder, love more, love selflessly. Loss teaches you that life is never promised. Loss teaches you anxiety. Loss gives you anxiety. But loss also makes you stronger. It teaches you that you can go on to be okay, to cope. It’s okay to not be okay. Some days are easier than others. Some days a toddler in the store, the age yours should be, smiles at you, and it hits you really hard and you cry all the way home. Grief comes in waves. Better days will come."